Do you feel like resigning to your work because you felt stagnant and that you’re not growing up professionally on where you’re supposed to be? Are you not happy and contented with what you’re doing anymore? Do you feel like whatever you’re doing is not in line with your passion? But then you don’t have any choice but to stick with it because you’re torn between choosing to follow your dreams and took the risks and uncertainty of your future, or choose to stay in a sucky job but can provide you the stability in life you need? If you’re stuck with this misery, then you are most probably suffering a quarter-life crisis right now.
A quarter-life crisis is not new to all of us, especially to those people who transitioned from their teenage life to adulthood. To some of us, this has been a huge shocker. We find shifting our goals and priorities as we face the reality of life: working to earn more money, paying your bills, and fulfilling your duties and responsibilities. Oftentimes you get stuck and lost in your life. You’re confused as to what direction you should follow. How do we free ourselves from the confinement of this crisis?
Here are our top 3 tips to help you overcome the quarter-life crisis you’re experiencing to move forward in your life.
1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
One reason why we got stuck in our life is because we often compare ourselves to others. So what if your friend already got to travel around the world after 2 years of working? Why do you care if your colleague got promoted ahead of you? so what if your batchmate from college already got married and starting a family already? Just because they’ve already achieved these milestones in life it doesn’t mean that you’re already left behind.
Remember, that each of us has an individual and unique journey to take in life, this is not a competition of who gets to have one first and who gets left behind. Instead of wallowing yourself in self-pity, just divert your focus into accomplishing all the dreams, goals, and priorities you have in your life. What’s more important is to live your own life the way how you want it to be. You need to create your own timing, your own pace as you carve out your own path. Don’t live someone else’s life, focus on building your own one.
2. Don’t Get Overwhelmed by High Expectations
While expectations can be a good thing, it truly sucks if you aren’t able to achieve it. And when disappointment occurs, we often beat and chastising ourselves for not doing better. We felt bad because we let our family and friends down. We felt worthless because we weren’t able to achieve our dreams. Sometimes we even started to fear to have expectations because we’re afraid we couldn’t commit into accomplishing it.
Instead of focusing yourself in the future, divert yourself into focusing on the now. Do what you can at this early point in your life. Take some time to enjoy and feel what you’re currently doing. Digests the lessons that you learned as you go through the process of achieving your dream. We want you to remember this phase:
“What you do today will determine who you are tomorrow.”
So stop thinking too hard about the future and do your best today, and before you know it, you are already at the spot where you have realized your dream.
3. Celebrate Every Success, No Matter How Small They Are
Another reason why we feel so stuck is because we’re so focused on achieving our dreams that we forgot the success we’ve accomplished right now. You may still be far away from where you want to be, but take the time to look back and see how far you’ve come. Do you really want to give up right now? Certainly not, right? So instead of indulging yourself into misery, try to create a step by step plan to achieve your dream. And whenever you’ve managed to accomplish one task or milestone, allow yourself the liberty to celebrate for a job well done. After all, you’re now one step closer to your dreams! Baby steps.