Everyone needs to feel loved. However, in a world where superficial love, broken relationships, painful betrayals, and flings are rampant, it is easy to be jaded when it comes to love matters. It is as if every person or every relationship is destined to fail. It seems like there is no hope there’s no hope of finding the right one for us at all. Does true love still exist?
Before you go shredding off the last hope you have in living your fairy tale dream, please read this post to the end. We will guide you on how to distinguish real love from superficial love.
This is what happens when you find true love:
“True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.” — Honoré de Balzac
Be Authentic With Yourself
To find real love, you need to be authentic, genuine, and true to yourself. One of the most common mistakes that people commit in relationships is pretending to live up to their partners’ standards. Never do something you are uncomfortable with just to get someone’s attention or approval.
Although we all want to feel loved, there is no need to become someone else and lose yourself in the process just to get what you want. Eventually, you’ll get tired of this facade. Be yourself.
You Are Accepted For Who You Are
If it takes for you to become someone else just to feel loved, you better end that relationship soon because that’s not true love. In real love, you don’t need to pretend; you just have to be yourself. If a person truly loves you, he or she will accept your personality, attitude, and flaws. Even in your darkest moment, he or she will choose to be part of your life.
You Become the Best Version of Yourself
Since you’re finally free from the constraints of society and you’re finally allowed to live the life you want, you start to soar high and achieve your dreams. This is the time where you’re free to carve any path you want to take. Nobody’s stopping you from achieving your dream. You improve and become the best version of yourself. Moreover, you are not worried about anything because your significant other is always there to support you in all your endeavors and quests.
You Establish Constant Open Communication
If it’s true love, you should notice that there are basically no secrets, boundaries, or walls between the two of you. You are not shy about confessing all your fears, vulnerabilities, and even doubts to your partner; you can speak everything. This is actually a sign of mutual trust, and it is a good sign as it is one of the pillars of having a genuine relationship. If you have trust, you feel that there are no boundaries, so you can tackle any topic and express yourself without fear of being judged.
This is actually what is called an “intelligent communication or conversation” because the both of you are willing to explore things beyond your comfort zone. You are also willing to listen to your partner’s different POV to understand where they’re coming from. This also shows how transparent your relationship is.
You are Happy
Love is neither a bed of roses nor a fairy tale. Sometimes, love can be dark as picking up thorns and bleeding in the process. Although your relationship may encounter rocks and challenges, you find your love, determination, and persistence unwavering. You are willing to undergo this suffering because you know that they are worthwhile. As such, you find happiness, so you do not live every single day of your life in regrets, remorse, and agony.